Why was I so mean to myself all the time? Why couldn’t I think anything nice about myself? The running commentary in my head was always so negative.
Coming from an abusive past, I had become used to derogatory remarks. My dad never had anything nice to say about me or anyone else for that matter. He was constantly criticizing and judging me all the time.
But the sad thing is that I was still treating myself the same way! No longer living with my dad, the conversation in my head had not changed, even after all these years. I was criticizing, condemned, and judging myself all the time. Sometimes tears even came to my eyes as I thought these mean thoughts.
Meeting Jesus changed all that!
Discovering how much He loved me was the most amazing thing I had ever heard. And then to find out that He only had good thoughts towards me, well that was incomprehensible. Slowly the image that I had of myself started to change, I started to see myself washed in His blood. It was wonderful to belong to Him and be a part of His family.
God spoke to me often about my thoughts and my self-talk – that running conversation that you have going on in your head! He showed me through His word that I was speaking against His creation and hurting myself.Tweet
I realized that I had to learn to be my own best cheerleader. I mean, if I did not support myself, how could I expect anyone else to?
Loving myself did not come easy for me. I had many years of learning to not like myself at all. But as I changed my self-talk and started to be kinder to myself, my stress levels started to drop. I had been my own worst enemy. My harsh judging and condemnation of myself only made the situation worse. It just made me more nervous, making me angry at everyone.
My friend, how is your self-talk? Are you speaking kind words to yourself or are you like I was, mean and nasty to yourself?
Our self-talk, the running conversation in our head is especially important. It can make or break a situation. If you keep telling yourself that you are stupid and always making mistakes, well, that is what you are going to keep getting. This will only increase your frustration levels.
But if you tell yourself that it is ok, that you are learning and you will get better as you go along, you will find that you will relax more, having more self-confidence
Be kind to yourself, give yourself some grace. If you do not look after yourself, who will?
Use your self-talk to build you up and not tear you down. It will make all the difference. Change the way you speak to yourself and you will see the situations around you change too. Become a positive person and treat yourself with respect.
Now, you can start to stand up taller and have a smile on your face, knowing that you and God have your back! Start believing that you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you – Philippians 4:13. Yes, you can!
I’m cheering you on!
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