Don’t Let F.O.M.O Put You In A Relationship
Have you ever been asked the golden question, “When are you getting married?”
Do your parents ever throw a temper tantrum about not willing to die without seeing their grandchildren?
Have you ever been told you’re “incomplete” or “insignificant” because you’re single?
Have others ever suggested that you put off your aspirations until Mr. or Mrs. Right comes along?
Have you ever been to a wedding and everyone greets you with the same line, “When is your own wedding?”
Do you get annoyed? Frustrated, maybe? How do you answer?
Well, one thing I can tell you is DON’T GIVE INTO THE PRESSURE!
Some people master the art of looking-forward-to-next in other people’s lives: When are you graduating? When are you getting married? Are you pregnant yet? When are you going back to work? Why haven’t you bought a house yet?
Don’t think once you get married the questions will stop coming; they’ll pull out new ones out of their collections. This awareness gives you a better perspective, and when you don’t give into their pressure, it’ll spare you some trouble.
I recently made a post and asked “Are you single, saved, and content?” A few people said no, one of the reasons was because of the cute happy couples they were seeing.
Basically, They Felt They Were Missing Out.
One of the girls who commented connected with me. A meme she read, “Once you’re single you see a lot of happy couples, once you’re married you see a lot of happy singles.” Most of these couples may be wishing they were single. You just don’t know (more on perspective later). Many people are in unhealthy relationships because they are afraid of the alternative. They are terrified of being single and being asked “Why?”
“If the only drive to be in a relationship is to escape yourself, then you are running from your own shadow.”- Single, Saved, and ContentTweet
You may say you are not running from yourself, but if you desire a relationship out of fear of being single, then you are definitely trying to escape yourself. Now, ask yourself, why does the idea of being single scare you?
Don’t let F.O.M.O (Fear of Missing Out) push you into a relationship you know isn’t right for you. If you don’t see yourself with the person in the future or if the relationship requires you to over-compromise. A good relationship requires compromising, yes, but if you have to lower your standards and live on a lower level to be in a relationship, then that relationship isn’t right for you.
Naturally, fear is a survival mechanism. It is used to keep out of dangerous situations. So, if your drive to be in a relationship is based on fear, then your singleness threatens you. If your singleness threatens you, then you can’t be content in this season of your life.
Now, what does the Bible tell us about fear? 1 John 4:18 tells us that perfect love cast out fear. Get the love of God to fill you until you see you the way The Great I Am sees you, and know who He says you are, then you won’t be afraid to be alone. Even if you are trusting God for marriage, you will understand how crucial your singleness is. Then and only then can you fulfill the purpose God has for you in this season of your life.
May God’s love take you from fear to fulfillment!
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